Lies of Perfectionism, Part 2


In Lies of Perfectionism, Part 1 we examined several misconceptions perfectionists have and the stories perfectionists keep telling themselves.  If you feel like what you accomplish is never going to be good enough, or you often procrastinate engaging in important tasks like practicing or preparing for events, or you feel you must impress others or you set standards that are impossible to … [Read more...]

Lies of Perfectionism, Part 1


Many of you may have seen the recent psychological thriller, The Black Swan.  In this fictional portrayal of perfectionism, Nina, a promising ballerina, pushes herself beyond the bounds of her mental and physical health to be perfect.  It is very tiring, discouraging, and often destructive to continually attempt to impress others, avoid making mistakes, and perform perfectly all the time.   … [Read more...]

Performance Anxiety and Fear of Failure


In the competitive world of music, performers often feel the need to impress friends, family, other performers, colleagues, judges, and audiences.  If you want to be a successful performer, trying hard and caring about pleasing others seems like a good idea.  However, performers who care too much about what others think often struggle with a need to be accepted, respected, or liked by others. … [Read more...]